What Every Mama Fears

This is what I am most terrified about, that something like this would happen to my children.


Why someone would do this to an innocent child is beside the point if the child is abducted.  Education is key and for me, the most daunting challenge is being satisfied that my children will understand what to do.  He’s four and she’s two.  How do I teach them and know that they will be able to protect themselves outside of my ever constant presence?

I have to have faith.

I have to know and trust that I have taught them well and send them out into this cruel world.  There is only so much time I can actually be with them and anything can happen at any time but this video that is making its rounds is just a strong reminder to watch your children.  I’ve mentioned this before in an earlier post about how my family gives me headaches about how I am too watchful, about how I keep a tight lease on my children but I don’t see it that way and frankly I DON’T CARE!  They are my children and only I know how to take care of them as their needs change.  There is no such thing as being too caring, to watchful, or too whatever if it means a child’s well-being.

Some parents, in my opinion, have become very complacent and are relying too much on others to watch their children.  For example, some parents I know (and I am speaking completely from my own experience and knowledge of these situations) believe that once their children are in school, their parenting stops because the teacher is in charge or the principal.  No ma’am/sir!  It should always be a parents’ responsibility to be involved in every aspect of their child’s life.

I can almost hear it, the jeers and negative comments of people who would tell me that I am naive and that I’m green.  I am simply speaking from experience and knowledge I have accumulated and yes, it is a learning process.  I am also speaking from the standpoint of my children’s age, accordingly.

I hope that this never happens to another child, another abduction or anything of the sort, but of course, that is wishful thinking.  The only thing we can really do is educate our children well and be ever vigilant.

Help Children Learn Independence

Even though the world may be full of real and imagined danger, parents need to look for ways to help prepare and train children for the task of growing up and becoming independent.

Boost self-confidence. Even toddlers can make decisions. Let a small child choose between two shirts to wear for that day.

•  Praise efforts and accomplishments, no matter how small.

•  Talk regularly to your children and really listen.  Be interested no matter what they say.

•  Teach traffic safety by taking walks. Let your children tell you when and where it is safe to cross.

•  It is not enough to tell your children never to talk to strangers. If they can’t talk to strangers, how can they grow up able to deal with all the normal and good contacts that come each day? Tell them instead that you must always know where they are and that they must never go anywhere with a stranger.

•  Teach your children their full name, address, telephone number, and a relative’s or close friend’s name.

Source: Growing Child, Inc. via El Paso Independent School District

One Response to What Every Mama Fears

  1. Maria says:

    obesity has also been linked to “behaviour and meadcaic problems in adolescence and adulthood”, [here would have been a great place to provide some links to some research which supported this claim. Has anyone heard this one before?]For the benefit of those who don’t have access to the original research, I’ll quote the relevant section:In addition to the physical health and economic consequences as adults, being overweight as a child has social-emotional implications. During the early elementary school years, higher BMIs are associated with greater internalizing problems (Bradley et al., 2008). In adolescence, overweight status is associated with an increase in depression among girls (Needham & Crosnoe, 2005). Additionally, overweight teens have lower meadcaic achievement, especially in contexts in which being overweight is stigmatized (e.g., schools with high rates of dating or lower average BMI; Crosnoe & Muller, 2004). For girls, higher BMIs are also associated with a reduction in dating (but not in having sex; Cawley, 2001; Cawley, Joyner, & Sobal, 2006). Overall, research suggests that stigma against overweight individuals is commonplace, including in the workplace, in the health care system, and in schools (reviewed in Puhl & Brownell, 2001).Full references:Bradley, R., Houts, R., Nader, P., O’Brien, M., Belsky, J., Crosnoe, R., et al. (2008). Body mass index and its relation to internalizing and externalizing problems from infancy through middle childhood. Journal of Pediatrics, 5, 629–634. Needham, B., & Crosnoe, R. (2005). Overweight status and depressive symptoms during adolescence. Journal of Adolescent Health, 36, 48–55. Crosnoe, R., & Muller, C. (2004). Body mass index, meadcaic achievement and school context: Examining the educational experiences of adolescents at risk of obesity. Journal of Health and Social Behavior, 45, 393–407. Cawley, J. (2001). Body weight and the dating and sexual behaviors of young adolescents. In R. T.Michael (Ed.), Social awakening: Adolescent behavior as adulthood approaches (pp. 174–198). New York: Russell Sage Foundation. Cawley, J., Joyner, K., & Sobal, J. (2006). Size matters: The influence of adolescents’ weight and height on dating and sex. Rationality and Society, 18, 67–94. Puhl, R., & Brownell, K. (2001). Bias, discrimination and obesity. Obesity Research, 9, 788–805.

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