Get real! I knew the time would come where I was going to vent. I can’t stand it any longer. Today is the day.
There are very few times in my life that I get frustrated with people. I don’t like talking bad about anyone because I don’t like when people talk about me. So I won’t but I will let go of my thoughts because I am so frustrated!
Have you ever known, or know, of anyone who thinks or acts as if they are better than everyone else? They behave as if they’ve got all the answers and try to always give an opinion or insert themselves in conversations and try to sound intellectual? People who think they are still in high school and try to gather people around them and belittle others because they think this is a popularity contest? Use social media and post how successful they are but try to be subtle about it and horrifically fail on purpose? Use big words thinking they are the only ones who know what those words mean? When they make the rounds at a get-together and go from group to group and laugh stupidly out loud and try to make everyone think they are quite the social butterfly? Act concerned and make those stupid faces of genuine interest? (BARF!)
I know lots of people like that but I am fortunate that I don’t have to interact with them and I can keep them at arm’s length. Thank goodness because while I am not a confrontational person, I would be overwhelmingly tempted to tell them how stupid they are and how stupid they look.
I am, however, very unfortunate to know certain key people in my life who act just like that who happen to be in my life because of tight (noose-like) family and friend ties. First, there is absolutely nothing I can do about those ties. I am stuck with those relationships whether I like it or not. That’s the unfortunate part. Second, I can’t tell them to their face what I would really like to tell them because it would cause an imbalance in the “harmonious” relationships with my connection to others who are tied to that same person(s). Does that sound cryptic? Well, I hope so and I hope not. I hope so because again, I can’t afford the uproar I would cause (although a little entertainment wouldn’t hurt! just kidding!) and I hope not because I think everyone has a person like that in their lives that they just can’t swallow but can’t make disappear either! Lastly, if I can’t stand that person or persons and I can’t change them (not that I would want to, mind you, who cares except when it comes to me) what do I do? I have to look at myself and see what is it that is really bothering me.
Why does it bother me so much that I can’t stand a person who is a part of my life who behaves the way I mentioned above? Why can’t I just ignore them? Why can I not sweat the small stuff? Why is it so important? I’ve analyzed this (really, I have) and I’ve come to the conclusion that it is simply because when it comes to me those people do it on purpose because they know it bothers me (I gave them the ammunition) and they do it in my face and on purpose. The other conclusion I came to is that those people have low self-esteem and have to build themselves up by bringing others down or by acting stupid. How does that sound? I’ve learned that this is quite a common problem and I just didn’t know it. I never really talked about it to anyone before (except to one person), much less to the people in question, so I guess I let it bother me more than I should have. But…but I think that what bothers me more is that the situation is constant, that it is right in my face and I feel impotent that I can’t do squat about it. If it was only me and not other important people involved, I would let them have it!
What can I say? Some would tell me that I sound petty, that I am jealous, or that I am green with envy. Sincerely, none of the above. I think that when you are in a situation that you can’t control, you feel out of control or it just brings you down and you dread those people showing up again. I know I’ve been vague, but I generalized a feeling that I think most people have. I will be updating this post, become a little bit more focused and specific so that I can explore this idea further because I think it merits more conversation, if only for me.
Look for my updates soon. I just have to be careful not to step on certain toes, not because I am afraid of them, but because I am not into hurting anyone. Please comment and let me know what you think.