From the Toddler to the Big Boy Bed

And I don’t mean the full size bed in his room.  My son has been sneaking out of his room in the middle of the night and taking up more than half the space on my king size bed.  What a crick in the neck!  I end up clinging to the edge of my bed without realizing that I’m about to fall off!  Yikes!

This has been going on for more than 6 months so now I am worried about why he isn’t sleeping in his big boy bed.  My daughter is still in her crib but soon I hope to transfer her to her toddler bed.  She just figured out how to climb out of her crib so I’m out of luck on those time outs!  LOL!!

I’ve tried to determine my son’s aversion to his own bed.  I’ve set it up so that he can feel safe and warm and secure.  He has all of his favorite soft stuffed toys, a big boy pillow, a night-light on at night including the hall light (which is why I have to use a sleep mask to cover my eyes) and he has a soft place to land in case he falls out.

Ummmm…..I don’t know.  Where is the fine between wanting to take care of him like a baby or not spoiling him and needing him to get used to his bed meet?  He doesn’t have trouble going to sleep but I’ve tried a few things to try to keep him there.

I read to him.  He loves stories and he loves for me to read to him but the problem is that he doesn’t stop chattering so I never really finish.  He takes over the book and doesn’t really pay attention to it.  He’d rather relay to me past and present experiences and that’s fine, if it wasn’t nearing midnight!

I sing to him.  He loves songs and he loves lullaby’s and he usually sings along but again, like with the books, he interrupts a lot and doesn’t really get into the mood of the songs.  He listens to me sing to him for intervals of about 5 seconds at a time.  This method only works sometimes.

I cuddle him.  He loves cuddling.  He’s too big and heavy for me to carry him anymore so I hold him as close as possible so that he’ll feel that warmth and hear my heart beat.  He tosses and turns a lot (like his mama) so sometimes this is difficult because he’s trying to find a comfortable position.  It only really works when he is very tired.

I keep him up from his siesta during the day.  I really hate to do this but sometimes I do.  He gets very cranky if he doesn’t take an afternoon nap but come bedtime, it works like a charm.  It also helps me out so that I don’t have to battle with him every night.  I keep him up by going to the park or running errands during the day and I only do it once a week on different days each week.

Still, is there something wrong with him?  No.  He is just used to certain sleeping arrangements (like falling asleep on the couch while watching Phineas and Ferb on the Disney Channel) but if he was smaller, then he would have had a more regular bed time.  My daughter works like clockwork.  She is the one that tells me that she wants to go mimis right at 8:30 every night.

There is this song by Billy Dean called “Let Them Be Little” and it goes (the chorus) in part like this:

“So let them be little ’cause they’re only that way for awhile/Give them hope, give them praise, give them love every day/Let them cry, let them giggle, let them sleep in the middle/Oh, but let them be little.”

I worry about my children’s development because I get so much pressure from family members and friends about a timeline and it sucks.  I know that I will have to eventually get him to sleep at a certain time in his own bed because he will begin school for the first time next year and it will only get hard for both of us if I can’t get him to do that.  I need to take my own advice and just listen to my instincts.  There is no manual on how to rear a child or no set rules.  Each child is an individual and there is no “wrong” way of raising them, as it pertains to this in particular because that is the subject at hand.  However, I think I’ll listen to Billy Dean’s track more often and just “let him be little” for awhile longer.–9026061


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Let Them Be Little by Billy Dean

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