Invent A Time Machine

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Tick tock, tick tock…,

Really, invent one!  I should have invented a time machine before my son was born.  I deserved it!  In retrospect, I wish I would have given myself time for me.  I would have been more active, I think, if I had just paid more attention to me sooner!

Find A Time Space
Do the laundry, check.  Do the dishes, check.  Oops, make dinner first, check.  Do the shopping, check.  Teach your babies the ABC’s, check.  And on and on and on.  Somewhere in there, I forgot to find time for me!  Frankly, I didn’t really think about it.  When you have babies, it seems that you are dead last, if at all.  I was lucky to even find time to take a bath!  Seriously.  I made sure I brushed my teeth though.  LOL!  So, the first element of sanity should be to find a time frame just for you.  My ‘me’ time was at 11 pm for about an hour.  This will change over time to accommodate your changing schedule, but try to stick to it.  I was able to change mine to a more appropriate time because all I really did in that time was sit and fall asleep.  The point is to find a time frame first.
Find Your Space
Once you have established a time window that will work for you, then find a space that is just yours.  Your husband, kids, pets, neighbors, and distant relatives are not allowed in this space!  Put your version of a ‘do not disturb’ sign outside your space to keep everyone out.  (I have a picture of Maxine mooning perspective violators! hahahaha!)  Ummm, to be totally honest, I still can’t keep everyone completely out.  My babies think this has lengthened their running route from the living room to the bedroom and back.  🙁  My space is just the corner of my bed where I have propped up some pillows.  For now, it is the only place that works.  (Later on I will have an office space that I plan to really make my own ~ I’m still dreaming).  Finding this space might be tricky, like with me.  Of course I would like to have all the luxuries but that isn’t possible right now.  Fill your area with things that will make you comfortable and help you relax such as a plant, books, your computer, a coaster for your preferred beverage (ooohhhh Bailey’s!), the remote, etc., even if it is only for an hour, like with me.
Watch TV
Watch whatever you want!  This is why your designated time is so important.  I like to watch novelas (a Spanish soap opera) and for whatever reason, there is an abundance of them at night!  A lot of them are repeats but they are also novelas that I haven’t seen before or that I missed a lot of episodes of.  Now I know the power that runs through a man’s veins when he is in control of the remote.  Ahhhh, nice!
Read A Book
I love this part.  Reading is one of the best ways to relax that I know of.  You get lost in the story and forget the hardships of the day.  Pick a story to read, not a self-help book or biography (unless it’s a scandalous one!  LOL!!) because the idea is to get into your book and into the story.  This way you enjoy the book, actually read one, and you can recommend it in case it was good.  I have a rule where I read a book a month so that I know that I at least read 12 books in one year.  Of course if I get through more, well even better!  One tip:  if you are struggling through a book, put it down and get something else.  This will not help you to relax.  I know!
Buy Yourself Something Nice
I know this sounds weird but buy yourself something nice or something you want.  It doesn’t have to be expensive.  It could be something as small as a book, or something nicer, like a blouse.  I like to get on my computer and, like my book, I buy at least one small thing a month online.  I always use coupons or shop sales.  I like the challenge of buying something that was priced at $50 but I got at $15 inclusive.  It really does work!  (NOTE:  stay away from infomercials if you are up that late!  You can get that stuff at Bed, Bath, and Beyond).
And Finally
The wrap-up of this post is simply that as a mom, we tend to carry a heavier load than a man.  Sure, he works and keeps up the financial part and has his own issues at work but the truth is that we don’t get paid and the workload is heavier.  We have to give ourselves a little down time just so that we can be better women and better mothers.  I found that relaxing a little bit can make my decision-making process better.  I don’t get frustrated as often because I can think things through better before reacting.  This is what has worked for me.  It is a work in progress and ever-changing.  It’s always the smallest things that make the biggest difference.  I hope you try it!
Till next time!

4 Responses to Invent A Time Machine

  1. Andalucia says:

    I just discovered your blog. How hfligdteul!No, I’m not in a book club. I could never read a book that fast! It can take me about 6 months to read a book. But when I do, I chose one very selectively to make it worth my while. Books I have enjoyed are:Outlander by Diana Gabledon and Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein. Basically I like historical romance or books about dogs. The rest of the books I have on my nightstand are cookbooks. I love skimming cookbooks!Love,Mary

  2. tag heuer says:

    The info is a great help to me, thanks so much

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